7 November 2009

:)

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love mail from Adelaide


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Ribena, not Coke ok?!

1 November 2009

Goodbye October!

and hello November!

What a month.
Fuh!
Busy month ahead.
Take care people!

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Byeeeeeeee!


29 October 2009

Majolica Majorca Vanity Mirror

Collected it at Shiseido Co. today.


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Good quality.

Compact.
Quite pretty for something free. LOL.



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Longer and fuller lashes.This shit works I swear! *click* My review *click*

28 October 2009

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1. It's raining heavily outside. Do you know that I'm afraid of lightning and thunder?


2. I skipped class today. I feel so guilty. I am allowing all these crap to affect my studies. Maybe i'm just unlucky that all these had to happen at this time, at the final semester of my studies. I thought I would not cry anymore, I thought I was much stronger now. Yet....SIGH! I must not let my parents worry about me anymore. I must be able to take care of myself. It's time to grow up already. But you know.. you will always be a child in your parents' eyes.


3. I was going through the pictures in my Facebook earlier on. I realized... I lost the sparks in my eyes. I am no longer smiling from my heart, judging from the recent pictures.

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now

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I cant wait for the day to come.
I want to be able to smile from my heart again.



4. 当局者迷,旁观者清 *click*
Sometimes one can only have a clearer view of the 'picture' when they are no longer in it.

When people used to tell me or hint me that i'm getting fatter,I got angry, mad and offended. That is something I always fear,hated and I don't wish to face. I deceived myself in sucha way that I couldn't see what I dont wish to see.

People have been telling me I look 'lighter' now. I got offended too because I think that is a total lie wtf. I beg to differ because my weight remains the same.

Hmm...what they said could be true.

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the most unflattering picture I could find in my pc. Taken one year ago on my birthday.Omg i didn't know I used to look so fat and horrible! Now i know why people nagged me so much. pfft



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Taken yesterday. It was the same pants I was wearing in both pictures.


I am still very fat though.
But I think I was fatter in the first picture. *shiftypandaeyesemoticon*
I'm glad my boobs remain the same or else I would be dead broke replacing all my bras.


5. "To say "I love you" one must first be able to say the 'I'." - Ayn Rand

I am learning to be independent again. I depended too much on my parents when I was younger. I went through my college life depending him. From now on, I want to only depend on myself for everything. I do not want my happiness to be build on what some other people could provide, because nothing is absolute in this world. I am determine to be a whole, complete piece, before I venture into my next relationship.

Watch this : *click* The missing piece meets the big O *click*


27 October 2009

Five letters word + three numbers

I've been typing the same combination as my password for years.

In fact I've been typing it so often that even the letter N faded.



When one is so used to something, it is just not easy to get rid of it.

I am having a hard time detaching myself from him, the plans we made, the dreams we created, the promises he made..... just everything. The 1000+ days worth of memories.


My mom gave me a call today.
She said she saw both of them together..
The girl was driving his car while he was beside, happily together.
Just like how we used to be, my mom said angrily.
I understand that my mom was just being protective. She was just worried about me.
I got scolded for defending him. Well oh well.



My eyebags and dark circles are getting severe.sigh.

Picture taken today. With Ming.
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Haven't the tears all dried up already?


Because it just seems so fucking stupid when both of them are happily spending time together and I'm here crying.


我一直被誤導 是你還不願意揭曉

败犬女王 — 想开


“对自己没有信心,就会一直怀疑对方。
如果不克服自己心中的恐惧,
就没有办法恢复到一个平等的姿态来维系这段感情。”

那她要怎么克服?

“心病还需心药医,如果对事情不要那么执著,那么就不会有这么多问题产生了。
不只感情,在面对很多人生问题的时候也是一样,何必要庸人自扰呢?
如果愿意想开,其实一秒钟就可以想开了,不是吗?”
(败犬女王,二十集)



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停了几天,终于可以resume追剧了。
我真的觉得这部剧很好看,不像一般肤浅的爱情偶像剧。

在无双身上,我看到自己的影子。

在无双和学长之间的爱情,我看见了自己一直向往的梦想。

无双和小草莓的姐弟恋,一段不被看好的恋情,让我更加相信:要相爱,是需要条件的。


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The Missing N
N is missing.

O and A are also fading already.

:(

24 October 2009

Sweet Pea


sweet pea, originally uploaded by qofd.




H o p e.

20 October 2009

To every thing there is a season


To every thing there is a season,
and a time to every purpose
under the heaven.


A time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant,
and a time to pluck up that which is planted;


A time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;


A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;


A time to cast away stones,
and a time to gather stones together;


A time to embrace,
and a time to refrain from embracing;


A time to get, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;


A time to rend, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;


A time to love, and a time to hate;
a time of war, and a time of peace.

source




Goodbye to us
This has always been a favourite photo of mine.
One last time, just before I delete everything. =)



People have been telling me to stop talking about the ended relationship.
People don't understand what is the point of torturing myself by messing with the healing wound.

To me, just because it has ended, doesn't mean that it deserve no proper goodbye. Sadly, that is what most people think. They think it is a waste of time because past is past.

Perhaps I am different from others.
It doesn't matter anyway.
I can choose how I wish to part.


愿天下有情人终成眷属, 愿你和她幸福快乐。

19 October 2009

伤到深处总是情,情到深处总是伤.

17 October 2009

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Not doing good this week.


As mentioned earlier, I have now fallen into a new cycle of grief.
Oh well. I will recover one day. Life still goes on.

Some pictures to compensate for the emo posts flooding on my blog:

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sushi king - the girls' table


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my body currently refuses any form of rice intake, so I bought ang green ku kueh instead.


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pardon my swollen eyes, fat face and arms


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sigh eyebags i need to sleep more!


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This was taken earlier this week. Dinner with mates after presentation. Eleven of us.
Before I'd officially fallen into the new grief cycle. (Hence the plate of rice)



Time for dinner. ciao.

可惜不是你


...可惜不是你陪我到最後
曾一起走却走失那路口
感谢那是你牵过我的手
还能感受那温柔


那一段我们曾心贴着心
我想我更有权力关心你
可能你已走进别人风景
多希望也有星光的投影


努力为你改变
却变不了预留的伏線
以为在你身边那也算永远
仿佛还是昨天
可是昨天已非常遥远
但闭上双眼我还看得见...






I'm terribly upset.
I don't even want to try denying that.

Everything takes time.
I will take my time.

16 October 2009

As promised

The dark side of me.

which is basically the emotionally disturbed me.

I find myself easily drowned in negative emotions, and also I take a much longer time than others to recover. During this period, I tend to overreact to every little things I am no longer the normal me.


When people are in pain, they sometimes cannot help but to spread that energy onto others. When people communicate in ways that are hurtful to you, it is not meant to be personal, but rather a reflection of their internal state.


What I managed to observe (up to date) when I am emotionally disturbed:


I shut myself completely.

I want to be left alone. I can't talk to anyone when my mind is cluttered like that it frustrates me. All I want is to be alone because that makes me feel better, at least for that temporary period. Instead of talking to someone for help, I keep everything to myself.

I realized I also can't be true to someone who is close to me when it comes to things that made me emotionally disturbed. Which includes my family members, my close friends and my then partner. I have this really weird fear that I fear by telling them(those who are close to me) they are in a better position to hurt me in return since they already knew so much about me. Because of this fear, I always always always reacted defensively. I said things and acted in the total opposite way of how I truly felt in heart, when facing my close ones. But I can be more open when facing strangers, funny isn't it?



Over the years, I've been emotionally disturbed for the very same problem.
IT all started few years ago, just right before I started college.


I remember one night of three years ago, it happened again.
I was in my coll's hostel. I was still kinda to the environment and I have no friends yet. I could still remember I was feeling so terribly upset at that time, that I felt like jumping down from my window.

Out of desperation, I turned to the only person I knew who was staying at the same hostel, as we were attending the same class in college. I cried in front of him eventhough I barely knew him at that time. We walked halfway down the hill (my hostel was on top of a small hill) and walked up again while I was only crying and crying. [He is ah gooi if u must know]


After so many years, it is still bothering me.
In fact, it got bigger and worsen over the years.
My perception and confidence towards relationships changed as it affected me to a great depth.


My relationship with my mom got really bad too. I blamed her for the pain that I'd to only suffer alone. I dreaded to receive her calls. Seeing her only makes me cranky and sad. Again, I only want to run away from problems. Everytime she visits, I only want to stay alone in my bedroom.


I couldn't even remember how many times I'd ran out of my home because of it.


For someone who pretty much hate driving that I would avoid driving as much as possible, for many times I actually grabbed the car keys and drove out overwhelmed with anger, confusion and sadness. That was because it happened when I was back in hometown. I could still remember there was once I knocked my neighbour's car when I was reversing the car. I have to admit my mind was so cluttered I wasn't in a state to drive at that time, seriously.


If I was stucked here in KL, I would either squat in corner of my room with window, or lied down on the floor and cried my lungs out because I was feeling so upset and helpless. I felt like I could never run away from it and there is only one thing in my mind when i'm emotionally disturbed, that is, to RUNAWAY from everything.


Because I kept everything to myself, I got really lost.
I didn't know I was stucked in the dark forest.
I lost touch with reality. My eyes refuse to see what is supposed to be seen.
I find in order to protect the weak me inside, I became very defensive, I pretended and acted what I perceived as strong.

It will quickly become clear that the other person was acting out of the instincts of their inner caveman, and thus blinded by their own emotions.

Little did I know this is actually how I react to the resentment, the emotional burden I'd been carrying and accumulating all the time.
I didn't see that I was actually being destructive to my relationships, be it with my parents and family members, and also my partner back then.


I sought to fill the emptiness within me in many ways.
I tried to get even with everything.
Compulsive spending offered me a temporary relief.
Material objects provided me the temporary happiness, the feeling of contentment I couldn't get else where.
I indulged in binge eating.
I overreacted in everything, my inner body craved for more attention.


This cycle goes on and on in me.
My friends didn't know about it.
My parents thinks my behavior is getting more and more awful. They think I'd changed for the worse.
I transferred my resentment for it towards my then partner. I made a horrible mistake thinking that he is the source of my unhappiness. I made both of us unhappy.


As much as I regret how I allowed myself to affect the relationship with my then partner, I also know I can't be blaming only myself. Because a relationship goes both ways.


An awesome article on how to overcome resentment.


Because it is very important to get help before it's too late, I must learn to share and communicate my negative emotions and feelings. That is something I'm never know how to. I know I need to talk to others.Tell my close ones about it. That is what friends and family for. In fact, they were happy because they felt important that I trust them enough to tell them my deepest secret. I wish I know that earlier.


Yesterday marked the first time of where I am finally brave enough to call up my mom and shared her my inner feelings. Because I've now fallen into a new grief cycle. I then called up another girl friend of mine and cried to her again. I believe I can get through this cycle easier than the previous one, with the new me and also my supportive friends and family.


Yesterday also marked the first time in my life where I received a card from a friend who confessed his feelings for me. Thank you for your card and love. Though I'm deeply sorry I had to disappoint you. I am truly not in a state for whereby I'm ready for a new relationship.


When I am feeling low, all I need is support from friends to show me that I'm still a lovable person. The last thing I need right now is attention from guys. =)



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Learn to get in touch with silence within yourself, and know that everything in this life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.


Because...


"One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself." - Leonardo da Vinci



Awareness is all I need.




13 October 2009

Pictures only

I iz exhausted.

Fuh.


Sorry for taking so long to complete this post because it is super hard to look for pictures where I look less fat in it. You know lar.. all my friends so skinny wtf


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Finally dinner at 9.30pm- neh tunggu itu meng hui habis kerja lor


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12:27am - going for midnight karaoke session crazyyy


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totally unexpected. one week after my birthday!


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:D


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Theme of the night: Flora dan fauna wtf


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4.16am - on the way back from pyramid!


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Breakfast - mango flavoured leongfun


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sh is sucha pig


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@ Zhias Kitchen Restaurant, Sunway Pyramid


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Food = above average (KL standard lar) for its price


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tau loong and his younger bro!


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spot mana itu meng hui


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capangggggggggg :D



Urgh.
Lazy liao.
Byebye.


Oops.
Before I go, a big muackss for my friends!

1. Beeboolyn who drove all the way from Sunway to my place for the very first time, just to fetch me back to her place again.

2. Beeboohui for allowing me to crash her friend's birthday party, just so we could drive to Pavillion after that because I've never been to Cotton On (Bought a new pants for 30bucks!)
and later fetch me back home again not to mention almost kena pay duit kopi like SH did lmao. speeddd samor ark!

3. and Sayhang for fetching us in and out :P but no thanks to the part where he always make fun of me! Cuz I get frightened so easilyyyyy! Boo! hahaha

12 October 2009

給未來的自己

~找一個人心心相惜 找一顆心心心相印
在這個宇宙 我是獨一無二 沒人能取代


不管怎樣 怎樣都會受傷
傷了又怎樣 至少我很堅強 我很坦蕩


夜幕籠罩燦爛的一片燈海
多少人多少種無奈
在星光裏遺忘昨天的傷害
一覺醒來還有期待


我不放棄愛的勇氣 我不懷疑會有真心
我要握住 一個最美的夢 給未來的自己~


一天一天 一天推翻一天 堅持的信仰
我會記住自己今天的模樣


有一個人惶惶相惜 有一顆心心心相印
拋開過去 我想認真去追尋 未來的自己~





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不管怎樣 怎樣都會受傷 傷了又怎樣 至少我很堅強 我很坦蕩

Google translate:
In any case what will hurt hurt and how at least I am strong and I am very forthright


LOL.


I chose to go.


Determine that thing can be and shall be done, and then we shall find the way.
-Lincoln, Abraham



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Too busy to blog!
Esok ada presentation argh mati lah aku! X_X

9 October 2009

Just because I have to acknowledge my feelings.

note: Long wordy post ahead *yawns*


This has been on my mind for quite sometime.



As you know, I'm currently recovering from a failed relationship, which is also my first official relationship and we had been together for three years. I chose to use the word official instead of serious because I am always serious when it comes to relationships. By official I mean a relationship that is made known to my parents and family.I've been wanting to write about this yet I am afraid by touching on my relationship issues up here in my blog will only allow others to judge me and him.


I believe there will be no perfect explanation to outsiders why a relationship fails. To be fair to both of us, I refused to explain to my mom's questions even when she tried to pressure me using her usual tactics that drive me up the wall, because there are always two sides to a story and when it comes to a relationship, only both of them know best.


So, please be mindful that I'm just writing this based on my personal experiences and upon my own self reflection.

I went through many stages before I am here today.


When the breakup first occurred, I was devastated.

I blamed myself for ruining the relationship. I felt like some useless crap who can't even manage a relationship. I viewed myself as the culprit to why the relationship failed. I blamed myself for my awful behavior, and I hated myself for taking him for granted. I disappointed my parents badly because they adore him a lot. I felt like the worst person on earth.

I thought so lowly of myself I sent my pride and dignity down to drain. My self-esteem was at its the lowest state. I lived my days constantly seeking his forgiveness and approval, just to prove my own worthiness. For that, I was willing to bow down to anything and everything, as long as I thought it would be able to prove my existence, the one who was once happily being in a relationship.


I was in denial. (Remember the 5 stages of grief?)
I couldn't accept the breakup. [I've my reasons, more on that later] I was so depressed and I lived like a living zombie. I was pretty much dead inside. I cried every few hours, I couldn't eat and sleep properly. There was nothing I could do because I was terribly upset. It wasn't that hard to act like I was fine in front of my friends, but when it comes to my parents and especially my mom, it was just too hard. She is my ultimate weakness. I'd no idea how many times I actually fought with my mom for my relationship issues.


Gradually, I was able to accept the breakup. I was calmer than before. And that was when I started to think deeply.


yes, THINK.

I admit I'm not a person who likes to think. In fact, I pretty much hate thinking.
Because being alone gives me so much time to think, I realized i cant go forward if i keep on holding on to all the mistakes I did in the past. I realized I need to accept the fact and just let go.

I started to focus on myself more...

I tried analyzing what went wrong with the relationship and what I came up with were all related to me and my behavior.

For examples:
  • I was discontented.
  • I was bad tempered.
  • etc.

Because I was so and so, I made relationship mistakes.
I saw nothing but flaws in me.
Well, everyone has flaws, so I thought I would just have to overcome these and things will be alright.

Little did I know that, those were just the effects of the real problem in me.

Negative thoughts --> Negative feelings --> Negative behaviors

I actually took quite some time before I could fully understand myself.
There is an article on tackling the root cause of a problem, to read please click HERE.


I started by asking my friends and classmates, how would them describe me as a person, what are my strengths and weaknesses and so forth.

The responses I got were pretty much the same.

To sum up, I am: Straightforward, Stubborn and Sensitive.


Straightforward.
I am a straightforward person. I couldn't hide what I am feeling inside.

I realized people tend to find me a picky person who complains alot.
That is soooo not true.
I am just saying what is on my mind.
And I'm not picky, I just have my preference for finer things in life.
And by pointing out my preference, people think I'm picky, high maintenance, etc.

I guess when I send out too much negative comments, people tend to perceive them as complaints thou my intention wasn't to complain.


For someone who can be even have preference for foolscap papers, well..maybe I'm just fussy after all. *shifty panda eyes emoticon*
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Left : colour of paper too yellowish and space between lines too narrow for my liking
Middle: paper is too thick and the colour of lines too dark.
Right: I like this the best. The thickness of paper is perfect, spaces are wide enough not to constraint my writing, and the colour of lines are just perfect! :D


LOL. man nei fuk mei !
People dont understand, how the hell can I be so fussy.
Well, I am not. It just so happens that I have my preference for things.....and I'm straightforward at the same time.


I laugh like crazy if im feeling happy.
I scream like mad if i'm stress out.
I cry like mad baby if im sad.
I cant hold myself from frowning and showing you my mad face if i'm angry.


Basically what you see is what you get.
Well, at least I'm not fake and I don't pretend for something I am not. -____-

However, I am not good in filtering the negative stuff in my brain before saying it out. That upsets a lot of people around me even though that wasn't my intention. Sometimes what I said might have hurt others in an unintentional manner, which makes me an insensitive person? sigh why am I so complicated.


Stubborn.
When you combine straightforward + stubborn, oh gosh trust me, that makes me a bad bad bad person.

My parents don't understand why do I always ''bok zui'' (argue in cantonese) They think I like to pick up fights. Well seriously who likes to fight? I dont for sure. But the stubborn devil in me makes me so.

I have always been the rebellious and disobedient kid at home unlike my friends. Adults dont like me. When I disagree with what them, I would stand firm with my point until I win, even if I was wrong in the first place. Well, no one really wins in an argument I guess. There is always the aftereffects of arguments that is not visible to human eyes.

I am stubborn. That is a fact.
Gooi even commented that I am a stubborn aka tough girl wannabe.
-________-
The Art of Arguing. I so need to learn that. Le sigh.


Sensitive.
I am very sensitive physically and also emotionally. Keyword here is VERY.

I used to categorized myself as a emotional and passionate person.

The other day, ah gooi, a friend of mine commented that I'm a joyful person because it is very easy to make me laugh. Which I find it unacceptable because I never see myself as a joyful person. I find that when it is very easy to make me laugh, it is also extremely easy to make me cry or angry over something. So, during a discussion with friends in plurk, I came up with this equation:

When:
sensitive --> sensitive to emotions --> emotional

Therefore:
sensitive = emotional

Because being sensitive makes me an emotional person.

I came across this article when googling ''sensitive to emotions'' wtf.
This awesome article is talking about me, seriously. I can connect to everything in this article!


How To Tell If You Are Highly Sensitive

Being Highly Sensitive comes with a number of gifts, as well as challenges. See if any of these Highly Sensitive qualities resonate strongly with you.
  1. You are deeply affected by all aspects of your life. As a Sensitive Soul, you have great emotional passion, intensity, and depth. You may have been told that your emotions are “too much.” You are sensitive, caring, and easily affected by the energy and emotions of others. These qualities make it easy to lose touch with your needs and desires.

  2. You have heightened perceptive skills. A Sensitive Soul is intuitive, highly aware, and keenly observant of the subtleties of your environment, including energy, light, noise, smell, texture, and temperature. You may also be empathic or even psychic. Your perceptive skills operate in the physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual realms. You tie together things you see into complex and original concepts. This makes you a visionary.

  3. You have a lower tolerance for stimulation than others. Because you receive so much information from your surroundings, your threshold for what's "too much" is significantly lower than for those around you. This means: a) You may be seen as shy or timid; and b) You may feel uncomfortably dissimilar to others because you respond so differently to stimulation.

  4. You are highly conscientious and thorough in all your undertakings. A Sensitive Soul makes a great employee. You concentrate intensely and process multi-source information. However, you require privacy, uninterrupted time, and little or no pressure in order to do your best work.

  5. You have a strong relationship with aesthetics and art. As a Highly Sensitive Soul, you have a passion for beauty, art, and aesthetics. You may be highly artistic and creative yourself. You easily create beauty and comfort. Seeing things 'out of alignment' can actually be physically or psychically distressing.

  6. Your inner life is just as intriguing and inspiring as your outer life. You likely have a rich, complex inner life and are highly imaginative. You may find it challenging to connect to 'real world' priorities and realities.

  7. You absolutely require private time alone in order to feel replenished. Up to 70% of Highly Sensitive Souls are introverted. But even extroverted sensitives need downtime to rejuvenate, often in a darkened, quiet room.

  8. You have a strong spiritual connection and depth. If you are Highly Sensitive, you experience a profound spiritual connection with the divine and/or spiritual realm. You 'see' a lot in what appears common. Because of this you may feel impatient with the truly mundane. [EXCERPT]

1 - 8, I can relate to ALL of them. so damn true!
I even took the How Sensitive Are You quiz and I got a 90%. -___-

Gosh. I used to think I'm bad tempered, awful, annoying, emotional person.
Now i know, I am just HIGHLY SENSITIVE WTF. *shifty panda eyes emoticon*


Okay because being sensitive makes me emotional,
I'd also managed to identify two emotions that provoke my emotional side most easily.


Unjust accusation makes me angry.
I get offended easily when people accuse me for something I am not or did not do.
It doesn't have to be a direct accusation to make me defensive and start boiling in anger. As long as I could sense any form of accusations in their wordings be it intentional or not, that would suffice to call upon the angry devil in me. :(


Disappointment upsets me.
I am one of those person who can't take disappointment. I really mean it.
Now I know why do I react so heavily to disappointments. A simple example from the other day:

I made plan with a girlfriend that both of us will be going to have lunch at the congee stall in The Gardens. I was looking forward to have yao char guai with my piping hot congee. But it turn out that we have to eat at another shop instead in order to accommodate the whole gang including the guys. I wasn't around when the decision was made (was shopping somewhere else) and I didn't have a chance to object. I was so so so upset my face was literally black throughout the lunch session. Not only that I didn't get to eat my congee, the food at the other eatery is also expensive and mediocre in taste..how to compensate for my loss la?!


If I didn't get what I was already expecting even if it is only something trivial , I will get tremendously upset. Which then makes me all cranky, angry and frustrated.

I know I need to learn to not expect anything. :/



Now that I came to the realization of how me, myself and I function internally, I felt SO MUCH better about myself. I realized it wasn't my intention to treat him so badly, to take him for granted, to behave like this and that...I was just unaware of myself, him, the situation, the surroundings, the impact and so on.

AWARENESS.

Because I have now gained the awareness, I am more susceptible to others things. I am no longer lost in the dark forest. I found my way out. =D

''This awareness has allowed me to realize that not all of my thoughts are rational, or are they necessarily based in reality. Therefore, because of my awareness, a red flag appears each time I think something negative about myself, my situation, or even an idea that I might have. When this flag goes up I am instantly able to reassess the thought and see where it might have originated and if it still holds any truth for me. Many times the thought is something I learned as a child, or was told as a child by significant others in my life, but it is not what I believe as an adult. Then with this knowledge I am able to challenge it and eventually erase it.''


It's really different how i see myself now compared to few months ago.
I can finally connect the missing dots and have a clearer view of myself.
Because knowing more about myself makes me feel powerful.
I feel stronger as I am now more in charge of myself and my life.
This awareness allows me to understand alot of things. Why did I react so, why did I do that, etc. I learned so much about myself and relationships I realized I'm not as awful as how I used to view myself before. If i am really such an awful person, then why do my friends love me so much? :P

After all, a failed relationship doesn't make me a failed person. =D

I've more to say but this is getting too long!

To be continue in Part 2: I will be probably talking about the dark side of me (be it in a relationship or not) :P


Please leave me a commentttttt! I love comments hehe :D

PS: I will be going over my beeboo's place for a stay overnight tomorrow! Girly time together! Happy! :D

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